Sin is sin is sin...

Divorce is NOT contagious! Although, if you've ever been divorced you may have felt like that is how most of your friends made you feel. Having been through a divorce (a time or two:(  I know that is how I felt. People treat you as if you getting divorced is going to effect their own marriages. It's really quite bizarre.

People don't mean to judge...it just happens...I think because they don't know what to say...  people that you used to considered 'good friends' suddenly are too busy to talk and stop taking your phone calls once they hear of the divorce. Christian and non-Christian friends alike...though I always expected more from the Christian friends; I guess that whole "Treat others how you want to be treated" rule made me think that... or the 'judge not lest you be judged'. Those seem to get thrown out the window with the word D.I.V.O.R.C.E....

I guess maybe there is some list somewhere of sins that are 'acceptable' and sins that are 'not'. I'm not privy to this list of sins, but I can imagine what sins would be in what column. I would assume that murder would be in the 'not' column. As well as stealing and coveting thy neighbors wife and being envious may be in the 'acceptable' column along with not reading your Bible daily or attending church every Sunday... your friends would cut you some slack on 'those' sins...

My point is that our God IS a loving God, a forgiving God for ALL that sin; which includes EVERYONE. Sin is sin. No matter how us humans choose to define or catagorize sin... it's all the same to God. And when we give it to Him and repent... He forgives... everyone that asks for no matter what sin we commit.

So, being proud and acting better than others... is a sin... being judgemental towards others... is a sin...
being unforgiving to those that have sinned against you...is a sin... Sin is sin... it ALL needs to be forgiven. No body is better than another.

People that are going through a divorce are already going through a hard time in their lives. If you've never been through one and it's hard for you to understand. Then count yourself lucky. I think that some people just don't know what to say. It's like when someone dies... or is diagnosed with a disease; any of those times that people just simply don't know what to say and instead of expressing that to their friend they make the mistake of saying nothing at all; of avoiding that person because the situation makes them uncomfortable. But what's happening with their friend is that they are hurting and feeling lonely and needing a friend and their friends have left them in their time of need.... that makes me sad...  sad for those people that are hurting...

Step outside your comfort zone with your friends and acquaintences and if you find that they are going through a divorce, or have been diagnosed with a disease, or lost someone close to them... even if you don't know what exactly to say and even if you don't agree with divorce... say something to let them know that you are still their friend and are there for them if they need an ear that you are there for them no matter...because you are choosing to be like Jesus and love others with grace and compassion.

If you are going through a divorce or have recently and are hurting... please email me so that I can pray for you. Divorce, no matter how much it may be needed, still hurts... you need to know that you are not alone and that people do care and that you are still a child of God that loves you deeply... no matter your sin.